Farewell S.D.

[Maverick]

Today at around 1PM my time, my cousin S.D. has passed away. He has reached the age of 26.

He was carrier of the M.E.L.A.S. syndrome, which stands for Mitochondrial myopathy, encephalopathy, lactic acidosis, and stroke (MELAS), and in fact it is a progressive neurodegenerative disorder.
It causes all sorts of physical malfunctions, like epileptic attacks, instant coma's, progressive loss of sight and hearing, incontinence, and a whole lot more. In the end the longs, heart, kidneys, and other crucial parts of the body simply stop working. Only about 12 people in the whole of Europe have this disease. It is not common enough for doctors to develop a treatment. Once the prognosis has been made, it's a matter of counting the remaining days. He was prognosed at the age of 12. Doctors never gave him more than 3 more years to live, but somehow he made it to the age of 26.

He never had the benefits and luxury of most of us. His disease prevented him from driving a car, going out with his friends, having a girlfriend etc. Actually all of the things we take for granted. At times like these one wonders what the hell we are complaining about at times. We really should be grateful for what we have in life and that we actually get a chance to enjoy life. Others, like my cousin, have been alive, though never got the chance to enjoy any of it.
What I can't understand is 'why'. Why did this had to happen to him? This kid was nothing but good. Never hurt a fly. Now I know there is no point in asking this question. But it sure as hell makes you wonder.

Ironic detail is that his sister, my cousin, was getting married tomorrow. Go figure. The marriage has been canceled for now.

I am writing this on the community forum in memory of my cousin. A boy who never got a chance to make something out of life. Who was plagued by disease, disappointments and relapses. Time and time again. For 14 years at a time.
My thoughts go out to his parents and brother and sister, who have had a really rough time the last 14 years. Be strong folks.

This breaks my heart. It's not fair.

[Ryus]

I cried m8.  Seriously, shed more than a tear.  I am so sorry for you and your family, i'll keep you all in prayers.  I wish I could say more but nothing comes to me, I will be remembering your cousin though.

[moltenlead]

The worst things in life often happen to the best of people.

R.I.P

[Magnum]

im sorry for you'r loss m8 .. May god bless the soul and place in heaven.

Xenon

[Spacemarine_E]

To the Family of S.D.

Somedays when the rain won't stop falling
I listen carefully and hear you calling
But the truth is your not there

When I look outside the window and see your face
I have to remind myself your in a better place
And that I can't tell you how much I care

Sometimes when I look up at the sky, I think to myself
That I'd rather see you than anybodyelse
And it wouldn't matter how much we'd fight

I can't believe your never coming back home
Sometimes when I'm with my friends, I think of you and feel alone
But I'll be alright

Cause you are still deep within me
And I know we'll never truly be apart
Because I'll always carry you, here in my heart

Erling Krohn

[[RAF]-Equinox-[H]]

My deepest sympathy for you and your family

[Zebulon]

Ahh  - that is bad.  I am sorry to hear of your loss, especialy of one so young and from such a disabling disease.

Please accept my condolences and the prayers of my family for you and yours.

[Torchie]

Mav,

I'm very sorry for your loss, there is nothing worse then losing someone you love.  Your in my thoughts and prayers.

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a 1,000 winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sun on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled light
I am the soft star that shines at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there; I did not die.
Mary Frye (attributed)

[Maverick]

Thanks for all the very kind replies and the beautiful poetry people. I appreciate it.
A very good friend of mine told me this:

"You say he didn't have the chance to enjoy anything. That is not true. He could enjoy all the tastes we do, he could enjoy the smells we do. He could listen to the birds singing outside the window. He could laugh at things that amuse him, he was comforted when he was upset. But most of all: he had a loving family, he was surrounded by people who cared for and loved him.

What use did his life have? He gave his parents a son to love. He gave all of his family another relative to love. He gave you good memories. He SAVED someone's life, by giving his own. He gave so much...it's just unfortunate his life had to be one of those."

I personally think that's a great way of remembering him.

[Ninja-Jinkaz]

Im sorry for your loss
I cant believe that happened
Ill pray for your family...

[Gr8-Lizard]

MAVERICK, my deepest sympaties-and from entire Clan, y know real life is primordial in our priority list, and we never joke  with-real life problems - of our players, (no matter who are they)we are humans ,NO?and we wish y resolve yr problems in adequate mode, with no paine!
(PLZ excuse my execrable english!)
Best Regards!

[YMER_ODEN]

This is very sad news MAVERICK  :( .

Aug. 14 2008 seems to be a very sad day. One of my colleagues at work lost his father last night and another colleague her father had a brain attack this morning while he was on holiday.

Our deepest sympathy to you and your family from the entire YMER clan my friend.

Take care and be strong.

[-DESTROYER-]

R.I.P. S.D. may God give you a good place in Heaven

......but most of all >  he was a soldier  <